Now that you have Fibromyalgia and people have turned their backs on you, you feel yourself worth isn’t what it used to be, but that just isn’t so! You feel you don’t have a purpose in this life anymore and that too is a lie that just isn’t true. So how do you turn all this around?
You have to learn to love yourself again.
No, you aren’t quite the same as you used to be, you are better! You have more empathy for others than you had before you got ill. You can feel for others, what they are feeling. You can listen better. You can look in someone’s eyes and tell right away if they are in pain. Could you do that before you had Fibromyalgia? I would be willing to say that you could not! You have more love for others now! You are a better person now!
If you have more love for others, then it is time for you to learn to love yourself. So, what if your friends didn’t believe you. It’s their loss, not yours. Yes, you miss them and the fun you had with them, but can you do all the things you used to do? The answer is probably not. Well then, let it go. Yes, I know you are lonely, but find new friends who will understand and they will not leave you. There are ways, you just have to look for them.
Look in the mirror, say I love you and mean it. Do it when you wake up and every time you go potty and right before you go to bed. It might feel silly, especially right at the beginning, but it works. Think of all the positive things you do during the day and write them down and go over them at night. Did you comfort someone during the day on a support group? Did you speak cheerfully on the telephone to someone not as cheerful and make their day? Did you tell someone God Bless you today? Write down all the cheerful and positive and cheerful things you did today and go over them right before you go to bed. Every day there will be more. How many times did you tell someone that you loved them today? Write that down. The more positive you are, write that down. You will find the more you do these things, the more positive you will be and the happier you will be.
Your purpose in the world is to be happy and to make the world a better place. To love God, spread His word and to Love yourself. To treat others the way you want to be treated and to not downgrade yourself or others. In order to love yourself, you have to love others. To love yourself you have to have empathy with others and you already have that. Tell yourself you love yourself and one of these days you will believe it! You are worthy of love! More than worthy of love! Now all you have to do is believe it yourself!
Written by Deb Lundquist
September 27, 2017