To Unbelievers

Written by Deb Lundquist
February 13, 2018

This is for those of you who DISBELIEVE that FIBROMYALGIA is REAL.

This is for those of you who believe that your loved one, friend, or patient is lying.

Here is a question for you and I want you to answer it truthfully.

Have you ever felt pain? I mean REAL pain? Do you even know what REAL pain even feels like? Pain so intense that it consumes your every thought? Pain so intense that it sharpens every single one of your senses to the point that even the slightest touch of your clothing increases your pain level?

I would suggest that if you are doubting your loved one, that you have never felt pain.

Did you know that Fibromyalgia has a medical code for a diagnosis for insurance?

Did you know that our Military men and women, our Heroes are coming home with Fibromyalgia? Are you going to call our Military Heroes liars too? Really?

Let me ask you another question. I want you to answer it truthfully too.

Have you ever had the flu so bad that you felt like you were going to die? The flu where your entire body ached from the top of your head to the tip of your toes, even your hair? You were nauseated but you never vomited, your stomach cramped but you never went to the bathroom? All you could do is stay in bed and moan and groan. Maybe you even had a headache with it and nothing that you took made you feel any better?

When you felt this way, could you have driven, gone to work, cooked, stood and done the dishes, gone to the grocery store or done any errands?

Well, guess what. That is what Fibromyalgia feels like in the beginning 3 months and it just gets worse as time continues.

You are fortunate if you have never felt pain. Your nonbelief is unfortunate because it makes you a very un-empathetic person. Can you believe that of yourself? That you can’t have empathy for someone who is in need. That you cannot have faith in someone you have known for so long and you can turn on them when they are telling you the truth about a disease that is invisible. Do you realize that you have to face a truth about yourself, a very ugly truth?

Fibromyalgia is very REAL and is invisible to the unobservant beholder, but if you look in their eyes you can see it. If the patient cancels something, it isn’t time to get angry. It is time to check on them. Depression and Isolation are very real dangers to the Fibromyalgia patient. If you used to care for this person, it is time to check on them and not just by phone, but in person. Make sure they have what they need.

It is not time to criticize. If they aren’t working, it is because they can’t do it anymore. They aren’t lazy. They would love to work. They may not be eating right because cooking and going to the grocery store is just too much too handle.

Finances may be so tight that they are having to choose between food and medicine. If you were in their position, which would you choose?

Suicides are increasing because patients can’t get the medications they need and disbelievers have walked away from them. Do you count yourself as one? Do you?

Fibromyalgia is REAL!!!! It is time for you to believe.

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Deb Lundquist

After 20 years of living with this as a roommate, I feel I know Fibromyalgia well. Now, it is my passion to help people with Fibromyalgia and chronic pain take back control of their lives.